CONSCIOUS STRUGGLE

About “authenticity”, the relationship between individual and the society comes across my mind. Sometimes people make effort to get out of their comfort zone to try to get involved in a group while they cannot be 100% themselves. I have been through this and I have started to think why we have to try to become a part? We can just be determined on our own way if we cannot get along with majority naturally. We should be authentic to ourselves and behave how we are. I thought of a song called “try”:

Put your make-up on
Get your nails done
Curl your hair
Run the extra mile
Keep it slim so they like you, do they like you? Get your sexy on
Don’t be shy, girl
Take it off
This is what you want, to belong, so they like you
Do you like you? You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to, give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try
You don’t have to try Mm, mm Get your shopping on, at the mall, max your credit cards
You don’t have to choose, buy it all, so they like you
Do they like you? Wait a second,
Why, should you care, what they think of you
When you’re all alone, by yourself, do you like you?
Do you like you? You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to, give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to bend until you break
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try
You don’t have to try Mm, mm You don’t have to try so hard
You don’t have to, give it all away
You just have to get up, get up, get up, get up
You don’t have to change a single thing You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try, try, try, try
You don’t have to try
You don’t have to try Take your make-up off
Let your hair down
Take a breath
Look into the mirror, at yourself
Don’t you like you?
‘Cause I like you

I searched “authenticity” on the internet and got the following texts related to what I am thinking:

In existentialism, authenticity is the degree to which an individual’s actions are congruent with their beliefs and desires, despite external pressures; the conscious self is seen as coming to terms with being in a material world and with encountering external forces, pressures, and influences which are very different from, and other than, itself. A lack of authenticity is considered in existentialism to be bad faith.^[2] The call of authenticity resonates with the famous instruction by the Oracle of Delphi, “Know thyself.” But authenticity extends this message: “Don’t merely know thyself – be thyself.”^[3]
Theories
Existentialism
One of the greatest problems facing such abstract approaches is that the drives people call the “needs of one’s inner being” are diffuse, subjective, and often culture-bound. For this reason among others, authenticity is often “at the limits” of language; it is described as the negative space around inauthenticity, with reference to examples of inauthentic living.^[6] Sartre’s novels are perhaps the easiest access to this mode of describing authenticity: they often contain characters and antiheroes who base their actions on external pressures—the pressure to appear to be a certain kind of person, the pressure to adopt a particular mode of living, the pressure to ignore one’s own moral and aesthetic objections in order to have a more comfortable existence.
The goal of Kierkegaard’s existentialist philosophy is to show that, in order to achieve authenticity, one must face reality and form his own opinions of existence.
Conversely, existentialist authenticity prescribes “determine your destiny!” urging people to become aware of their freedom to choose their own path, which may, but need not, join that of others.
Other perspectives
While authenticity may be a goal intrinsic to “the good life,” it is often a difficult state to actually achieve, due in part to social pressures to live inauthentically and in part to a person’s own character.
History
A common definition of “authenticity” in psychology refers to the attempt to live one’s life according to the needs of one’s inner being, rather than the demands of society or one’s early conditioning.^[16][17][18]
For these writers, the conscious self is seen as coming to terms with being in a material world and with encountering external forces and influences which are very different from itself; authenticity is one way in which the self acts and changes in response to these pressures.
Cultural activities
Individuals concerned with living authentically have often led unusual lives that opposed cultural norms; the rise of the counter-culture in the 1960s in Europe and America was seen by many as a new opportunity to live an authentic existence.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Authenticity_(philosophy)

1. Origins and Meaning of the Concept of Authenticity
1.2 Autonomy and Authenticity
To some extent, authenticity and autonomy agree in supposing that one should strive to lead one’s life according to one’s own reasons and motives, relying on one’s capacity to follow self-imposed guidelines. In both cases, it is crucial that one has the ability to put one’s own behavior under reflexive scrutiny and make it dependent on self-determined goals (Honneth 1994).
2. Critique of Authenticity
A frequently mentioned worry with the ideal of authenticity is that the focus on one’s own inner feelings and attitudes may breed a self-centered preoccupation with oneself that is anti-social and destructive of altruism and compassion toward others.
3. Conceptions of Authenticity
3.1 Kierkegaard and Heidegger
Heidegger emphasizes that being authentic presupposes that one instantiate such virtues as perseverance, integrity, clear-sightedness, flexibility, openness, and so forth. It should be obvious that such a life is not necessarily opposed to an ethical and socially engaged existence.
https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/authenticity/#AutAut

Then I came to a statement: Becoming a part is tearing you apart.